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Lick by Lick
How to Go Down on a Woman
and Have Her Begging for More

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Lick by Lick
How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More
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Table of Contents

I
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Chapter One – Ground Rules
a
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To Orgasm or Not to Orgasm?
c
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Play It Safe

III
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The Mons Pubis
b
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The Clitoral Shaft
d
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The Frenulum
f
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The Vaginal Opening
h
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The Perineum

IV
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Waxing – It’s Not Just For Brazilians Anymore
b
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Cunnilingus During Menstruation

V
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b
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d
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Chapter Five – Don’t Head For the Clitoris – Yet
a
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Chapter Six – Think Outside the Box
a
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Circles
c
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ABC’s
e
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The Messy Eater

VIII
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Using your hands
b
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Using Toys

IX
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Legs Up
b
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Backwards
d
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Sit on My Face

X
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The
irrefutable evidence permeates our society from sexual innuendos in
commercials to adult films and pornography
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Unfortunately, oral sex for women
(called cunnilingus) doesn’t get quite as much publicity as fellatio does, in
spite of the fact that it is more pleasurable for a woman to receive oral sex
than it is for a man
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The amount of pleasure experienced
by a woman when receiving oral sex is much greater than the pleasure
experienced by a man receiving oral sex
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Well, not exactly
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If the clitoris is such a big deal, how come we haven’t
heard much about it until now?

This is where a little bit of psychology comes into play
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It is unlikely that she will
ever ask or tell you that she would like to experience cunnilingus – women
just aren’t wired that way
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Rest assured, however, that nearly all women love to be gone down on, for
both physical and emotional reasons
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Emotionally, during cunnilingus the woman is the center
of attention – nothing matters more at that moment than her pleasure
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For a woman, cunnilingus is like a mini-vacation where she can
finally forget her daily routine and nagging to-do list while her body releases
the pent up tension from the day
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There’s solid proof that cunnilingus is the most
surefire way to give a woman an orgasm
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7 percent of women did not reach an orgasm
if their husbands spent more than twenty-one minutes engaging in foreplay
and oral sex
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Cunnilingus is the ultimate form of sex for
a woman – hands down! You can go down on your partner before you
enter her, or you can surprise her and make cunnilingus the main event for
an evening
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So let’s get started!
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Chapter One – Ground Rules

We’ve established that women enjoy cunnilingus, but that most women
don’t ask for it or let on that they’ve thought about it or want it
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We
know you’re anxious to get to the techniques section and try them out, but
you can’t jump the gun here
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This we
know from the “Do I look fat in this outfit?” question
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This is the easy part – compliment her
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Show
interest in her and her activities and pay a little more attention to her
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You must also examine any inhibitions you have about cunnilingus as well
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Unfortunately, locker room stories about funny sights and
smells have scared many men out of the water
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For example, if the idea of being so close to a
woman’s vulva that you can see the hair follicles unnerves you, simply turn

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out the lights
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Some men prefer a woman’s vulva to have no hair
and others prefer a bush – both are fine and we’ll go into more detail about
pubic hair later in the book
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This obsession probably
started around the time that women as fifth graders were made to watch
the “Mom, I don’t feel so fresh” video when learning about their coming
menstrual cycles
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You will probably not have to introduce the subject at all – it
will most likely already be taken care of, out of the fear that her natural
smell doesn’t smell all that great
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Most women’s sensitivity and self-consciousness about her
natural smell is largely unfounded
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After some time after both you and your partner are
more comfortable, she may not even need to shower beforehand at all
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However, especially in the beginning, a
shower beforehand will ultimately make both you and her more comfortable
and receptive to cunnilingus
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She may be comfortable not showering
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A
suggestion for a shower for two will almost always do the trick! Keep in
mind that you don’t want to ask outright, so you may want to say something
like, “I would love to wash your hair in the shower to help you relax” or
“Massaging my soapy hands into your breasts would really help turn me
on…would you like to shower with me?” More than likely, your partner will
happily oblige
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Get creative!

To Orgasm or Not to Orgasm?

Although cunnilingus is quite possibly the easiest and most direct approach
to getting your partner to reach orgasm, this may not necessarily happen
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As you become
more and more experienced, your ability to bring her to orgasm will likely
increase, possibly to the point where she orgasms every time you perform
cunnilingus
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If you’re not comfortable yet asking her directly about her likes and dislikes,
if you pay attention to what she’s doing during cunnilingus you will most
likely be able to figure out for yourself which movements bring down the
house
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If you’ve ever given her an
orgasm before (whether by cunnilingus or other means), you will more than
likely be able to recognize when she is on the verge of a mind-bending big
O
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You can, of course, do a few variations, but most of the fancy
tongue movements are for the beginning when she’s really getting warmed
up
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If you and your partner are comfortable with talking to each other about
cunnilingus, this can be of great help to a man
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In this way,
she can take control of her pleasure while still experiencing the wonderful
and exhilarating feelings of cunnilingus
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You can say in a hot, breathy voice into
her vulva “Do you like that?” You will almost always be able to tell by the
enthusiasm in her voice whether she truly likes the movements or not
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If nothing seems to be working, don’t
get frustrated! If nothing is feeling good for her, she will be frustrated
enough for the both of you! Ask her gently to suggest a movement that she
would like more and you can even ask her to demonstrate what she would
like on your mouth
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It is possible that she won’t, however, no
matter how hard you try
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You may want to have a list of questions ready
to ask though, because she may not be able to give you a blow-by-blow of
exactly what she wants
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Some good questions to ask are:
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Do you like this speed? Would you like me to go faster or
slower? Just a little faster (or slower) or a lot?
Would you like me to continue moving or stop moving for
just a moment? If you want me to stop, just give me the
green light to go again
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Would you like harder or softer strokes, or do you like the
pressure I am applying right now?
If this is not the right spot, I would like you to show me
exactly where you would like me to move to
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There will be times in which she doesn’t want to have an orgasm at all, but
is simply enjoying your efforts
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If she is not going to experience an
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orgasm, it is important that she tells you before you become frustrated as
well
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If you feel that her body wants to
have an orgasm but for some reason it is just not happening (even if you’ve
tried using your hands or intercourse) give her the freedom to finish her
orgasm for herself
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This is, of course, the last resort, but if you find yourself in this situation a
time or two, don’t be judgmental about it and just let her get her groove on
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We will, however, go over safer oral sex
and cunnilingus practices for those who choose to utilize these techniques
outside of such a relationship or, if one’s partner is at risk for transmitting
STD’s
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When parts of your body are coming into
contact with parts of other people’s bodies, you run the risk of catching
infections and diseases
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You may have heard that it is more difficult for a woman
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to transmit a virus or infection to a man and to an extent, this is true
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Keep in mind, however, that your mouth will be coming into contact with
bodily fluids that may potentially carry a virus and your partner’s vulva will
be coming into contact with a mouth that may have a potential infection –
therefore, it is better to be safe than sorry
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Blood borne diseases are quite possibly the most serious of
sexually transmitted diseases and include both HIV and Hepatitis C
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This generally only happens if both
partners have an open sore or cut on both the vulva and the mouth
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These diseases can also be transmitted through hand to vulva contact if
there is an open sore or cut on the hand as well
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Bacterial infections and other infections such as Hepatitis A and B as well
as Chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis can also be transmitted through
unprotected cunnilingus
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The practice of safer sex during cunnilingus and any other
foreplay involving the vulva can reduce the chances of transmitting these
types of infections
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Although they are two different types of herpes viruses, it is
possible to transmit the virus to the vulva through a cold sore on the mouth
or to the mouth with a herpes sore on the vulva
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In the case of either a cold sore on the mouth or an
outbreak of genital herpes on the vulva, it is probably best to avoid
cunnilingus and other sexual contact during this time due to the fact that
genital herpes is so easy to spread
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Play It Safe

What are the proper precautions when practicing safer cunnilingus and
other sexual foreplay involving the vulva? Well, they’re no fun
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Why use one then? Isn’t this entire book about how to please a
woman? If the woman is not going enjoy cunnilingus, why bother? Well,
for starters, if she’s that uptight about it, then don’t bother
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Men hate condoms
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Most men will sacrifice the extra pleasure of intercourse without a condom
considering the alternatives
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If there are valid risks associated with performing cunnilingus for a
particular partner and she will not oblige to practicing safer sex, again we
say: don’t bother
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You may have
heard of dental dams – you know, those little latex squares they use at the
dentist’s office to isolate a tooth
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If you’re in the heat of
the moment and haven’t got anything else on hand, plastic wrap will work
just fine (see, we told you it might be in your kitchen drawer)
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Lubrication is very, very
important if you’re using any of these items during cunnilingus
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Uncomfortable, right? Plus, having lube
on the vulva-side of the latex or plastic will mimic the feeling of a wet
tongue more closely
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If you plan on engaging in foreplay of the vulva using your hands, you may
want to consider using a latex glove if you’re concerned about the risk of
transmitting STD’s
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If, however, there are open sores or cuts on the hands, fingers or
vulva, you do run the risk of possibly transmitting or contracting an STD
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Just keep in
mind that a dry latex glove doesn’t feel good – remember to use plenty of
water-based lube
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A caring
partner will happily oblige if you request protection for both her and yourself
if you are concerned about sexually transmitted diseases
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The Vulva in All Its Glory
A Female Anatomy Lesson Far Removed from Eighth Grade

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Chapter 2 – Yes, Learning The Parts Is Important

So why do you have to learn about female anatomy to learn how to perform
cunnilingus? You just lick it, right? Well, not exactly and we’re sensing that
since you’re reading this book, “just licking it” hasn’t quite had the reaction
that you were hoping for
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That’s what cunnilingus is all about and of course, we
will go more into just what to do when you’ve made your way down south
later in the book
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So why is it called a vulva? Why don’t you just say vagina?

Well, we’re trying to be politically correct here, or at least, anatomically
correct
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A woman’s vagina is simply the entrance to her
cervix, uterus and all those fun baby-making organs up there
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We didn’t think the p-word would
accurately refer to what we’re talking about here, and no, we don’t mean
“poonanny
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That’s a great start, but there are
many more parts to the female anatomy that will make her feel good and
possibly bring her to orgasm if licked, sucked and caressed in the proper
ways
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The Mons Pubis
The Mons pubis, also known as the “Mound of Venus” is the soft mound of
skin at the top of the vulva and is usually the part sporting the most pubic
hair, although there will most likely be pubic hair present on other parts of
the vulva as well
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The Front Commissure
The front commissure lies just underneath the Mons pubis and is the
beginning of the clitoral shaft
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This is also a
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great place to begin during cunnilingus, as it will help your partner get
warmed up before direct contact is made with the clitoris
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Just like with the front commissure, if you find that your lady
is a little on the sensitive side, you can try using soft pressure and long, flat
tongue sweeps on the clitoral shaft to help get her aroused and bring her to
orgasm
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Not knowing how to work around the clitoral hood
could make or break your partner’s orgasm
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Some movements can be too rough on the clitoral head and may cause
pain
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As a woman moves closer and closer to orgasm, the clitoral hood
retracts, revealing the clitoral head in all its glory
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This will help arouse your partner and coax the clitoral
head out of its hidey-hole
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If
you see the clitoral head move beneath the folds of skin of the hood just as
your partner is starting to scream and moan, don’t go searching for this lost
treasure – you may end up with a very disappointed and frustrated partner
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The Frenulum
The frenulum is the beginning of the inner labia, where the two lips meet at
the top
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Labia Minora and Labia Majora
Yes, these parts also have pleasurable nerve endings, although not as
much as the clitoral hood or head
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You can, however, give a
woman extreme pleasure by licking in, out and all around these folds – it
will give her a more intense and a more “thorough” cunnilingus experience
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It is also known as the birth canal and of course, is most
men’s favorite part of the female anatomy
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A woman
can derive great pleasure from a finger or smooth object working its way
inside the vaginal canal during cunnilingus, but more on that later
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It too can be sensitive and
receptive to pleasurable attention; however, this may be where some
women get uncomfortable during cunnilingus
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Also keep in mind that during childbirth, an episiotomy is often
performed on this particular area (a vertical cut directly through the
fourchette and into the perineum) to make more room for the birth of a
baby
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Again, it is
important that you and your partner discuss the fourchette and whether or
not she would like to receive pleasure in that area of her vulva before a
cunnilingus session, especially if this is the first one
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Some women enjoy slight pressure in this area, possibly with a hand
or index finger, but as with the fourchette, it is something best discussed
with your partner before cunnilingus
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If you and your partner are not comfortable
discussing the fourchette and the perineum and their roles in cunnilingus, it
might be best to play it safe and stay north of the border
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It does two things – it makes the woman feel fresher and more
comfortable with her body and it helps a man to enjoy her light, natural
scent without feeling overpowered
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Whichever you and your partner
decide on is up to you – just make sure it is something that will make you
both interested in and receptive to cunnilingus
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Naturally, even if everything
down there is clean, an overgrown forest is probably not the best venue for
a cunnilingus session
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This is another aspect of cunnilingus that must be discussed with
your partner beforehand if you’re both going to enjoy it
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Similarly, a man
that is choking on massive amounts of pubic hair will not find cunnilingus
enjoyable either
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A good trim (or shave
if she desires) is an excellent way to open up her vulva so that she can
experience more of your efforts during cunnilingus
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Surprisingly, a good tool to use
for this job is a man’s electric shaver
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She may find that pubic hair
closely shorn to the skin is more comfortable and may give her a light, airy
and clean feeling
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Sweat sticks
to thick, long hair and will begin to collect bacteria
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For
many women, keeping their pubic hair under control has become part of
the daily beauty routine, as with the underarms
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She can shave
all her pubic hair off, or she can leave a small patch (sometimes called a
“landing strip”) on the mons pubis
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Shaving bumps can occur and it can be itchy when growing
back
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Here
are some great tips if your lady chooses to shave:

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Soak in a warm bath for a few minutes before shaving to soften
the hairs
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Trim any long hair with scissors (or an electric shaver) before
starting
Use disposable safety razors – never use a straight blade!
Use your hands to manipulate skin to stretch it out before
shaving it
Use hypoallergenic, unscented soaps, shaving creams and
lotions
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Don’t use powder unless it’s cornstarch – studies show that talc
leads to cervical cancer
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It’s easier if you can
see what you’re doing!
Over-the-counter cortisone cream can help razor burn should it
arise
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If she usually doesn’t get ingrown
hairs, then she may want to consider waxing in lieu of shaving if keeping
her pubic hair to a minimum is more comfortable for both her and you
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Waxing eliminates
shaving hassles (to maintain smoothness, a woman has to shave her vulva
every two to three days, depending on the rate of hair growth), but it can
also be somewhat expensive
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Waxing in the
area of the vulva is best left to a professional
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We’re going to be straightforward here – a bikini
wax doesn’t really do the job unless the only thing your partner is going to
be wearing is a bikini
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Since she’s not going to be
wearing a bikini during cunnilingus, we’re going to recommend going with a
Brazilian wax
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She will come
back in no mood for cunnilingus, that’s for sure!

This is probably something you want to discuss with your partner first,
considering it is her body
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A couple things that will help if she’s
considering getting a wax – find a reputable salon
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Most females will
be more comfortable with other females doing the waxing, so make sure
you send her to a female waxer
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Respect her
boundaries during this time, because waxing definitely isn’t a comfortable
way to remove pubic hair
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It is best to wait until the next night
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Stubble or thick hairs are painful during cunnilingus (especially if they
irritate a sensitive clitoris) and can even impede orgasm
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If you prefer
not to shave or are growing out a beard, you can wrap a small towel around
your chin to help cut down on the abrasion
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A kitchen towel
does nicely
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Cunnilingus During Menstruation
In regards to cunnilingus during menstruation, there are generally two types
of men: those who love it and those who absolutely hate it
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Let’s face it – you’ve got to want to
perform cunnilingus pretty bad not to mind it
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She
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may not feel clean or in the mood for cunnilingus during her period,
therefore clearing you of all responsibility during this time
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Be on
the alert though – depending on her mood during her period, she may feel
very in the mood and may even ask you to perform cunnilingus outright
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If you’re really turned off by the idea (and you’re not alone if
you are), politely tell her that you aren’t comfortable with cunnilingus during
menstruation
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Before you say nay to the whole cunnilingus during menstruation idea,
keep in mind that if your partner is wearing a fresh tampon and has
showered, it is very much like she is not on her period at all
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If she is really in the
mood for cunnilingus and is on her period, you may want to try it that way –
you might be surprised
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But wait!
Don’t jump in feet first just yet
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Compare a woman to an oven – you can’t bake a
cake unless the oven has been preheated
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The best you could hope for during a cunnilingus
session in which the woman hasn’t been warmed up first is an orgasm after
a really, really, really long time
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First, your partner must be mentally in the mood
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You
can get creative – while old standards work great (and we’ll get into that
here in just a minute) you will also want to take into account your partner’s
preferences and your relationship together
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The Biggest Difference Between Men and Women

No, we’re not talking about the obvious here
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Specifically, we’re referring to the different ways men
and women get turned on
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Just the sight of
a large pair of soft, bouncy breasts can get a man turned on in a
millisecond
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Very, very rarely a woman is
turned on by something (or someone) she sees
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A steamy novel will get her juices flowing before any film or movie
will
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Yes, we’d like for you to think of getting her
mentally turned on as part of your technique, so you never forget to do it
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No, don’t cringe!
Men couldn’t care less about romantic dinners, flowers or any of the like but
women can go from zero to hot and horny with these simple gestures
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What would be romantic
for the two of you? It can be something like an elaborate gift or a simple
compliment
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Massage – with this one, you can kill two birds with one stone
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You’ll get the giftgiving bonus too! Women love massages – not only does it
relax them, it makes their responsibilities melt away and as a
result, they feel loved and cared for
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Jewelry, Bath & Body Works goodies,
comfortable sleepwear, the delicious perfume she’s been
eyeing flowers, etc
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If you do choose to get
her flowers, don’t get her a plant! Even though flowers will die
in a few days, a plant is just another thing she’ll have to take
care of and in time will become a hassle (unless she absolutely
loves plants)
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You can also turn this idea into anything, such as
going bowling together, taking a walk in a nearby park or just a
quiet drive to the ice cream parlor on a hot summer evening
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Chores – believe it or not, chores are to women what lingerie is
to men
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It will
only take a few minutes of your time (such as taking out the
trash or doing the dishes) but here again; the idea is to lighten
your lady’s load
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Be Original – if you’re unsure about how to mentally get her in
the mood, just follow this simple rule: break her out of her daily
routine
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” If you can lessen that
or break her out of it (even for a short time), you will most likely
succeed in getting her mentally turned on
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If her mind is relaxed but her
muscles are so tight that her legs snap shut every time your head gets to
her knees, you aren’t going to get very far during cunnilingus
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If massage, however, isn’t on the menu tonight, there are a
few other things you can try to get her so relaxed that her legs turn into
butter
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But we don’t mean
draw her bath, plop her in it and go about your business for
thirty minutes until she’s done
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Let her know that you are
interested in her! If done properly, a conversation geared
towards her while in a soothing, hot bath will do the same thing
as a massage – kill two birds with one stone and get both her
mind and body relaxed and ready for cunnilingus
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Why?
Studies in reflexology show that pressure points all over the
foot lead directly to specific points in the body
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A good foot
rub will activate all of these points and will relax her entire body
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You can also do
variations on this by scratching her scalp or using one of those
metal spider-looking head massagers
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Anything Physically Relaxing – use your imagination
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Some malls even have water
massage beds
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Anything that will physically relax her is
the ticket to a successful cunnilingus session
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Anything done in haste (unless
you are told to!) can ruin a cunnilingus session
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This technique will not only show your love for her
and her body, it will get her so hot and ready for your tongue on her vulva
that she will not be able to stand it any longer and will beg for it! Based on
individual circumstances, you can either go extra, extra slow during this
stage or you can speed it up a bit without going too fast
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The
pornography industry is not there to maximize a woman’s pleasure
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When cunnilingus is depicted during a pornography
film, the man goes straight for the vulva and begins licking the clitoris –
there is rarely any kissing, cuddling and if there is breast fondling, there is
very little of it
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And even more so, the man must
hold his head at an odd angle so the camera can zoom in close – this
position does not allow for a woman’s pleasure at all! During a proper
cunnilingus session, the only thing one would see is the back of the man’s
head – his entire face would be buried between her legs
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Now that we’re older and we are allowed to touch “down there,”
we always cut to the chase
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You can only touch “down there” if she
lets you! Like we said before, depending on the occasion, you can speed
this up a bit if you or your partner are not inclined to spend an hour making
out, but at least give her a little bit to get her warmed up
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Kiss her while
thinking about kissing her
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Let her imagine those lips on her vulva – deep kissing like this
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will help you both get into the right frame of mind
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A little tongue will be nice,
but let your lips do all the work
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Be
careful not to kiss her too lightly or she will get tickled, but
perhaps on this night, a little tickling might be nice
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Find a nice balance in
between and stay for a few minutes
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Breasts – this is most men’s favorite part, but be careful not to
dive right onto the nipples – it can be almost as detrimental as
going straight for the clitoris
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She will feel the light touch and
become aroused, but she will not be shocked with the more
intense touch that will come when her blouse has been taken
off
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Do it slowly and deliberately
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When
caressing her with your hands, make sure not to pinch her
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nipples too hard – you can roll them between your thumb and
forefinger like you would roll a cigarette, but don’t press down
or pinch
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Lick all around her breasts for several
minutes, working your way down
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This feels divine! Another technique is to
flick the nipple with your tongue
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Also, once you do begin
cunnilingus, don’t forget about her breasts! Many women enjoy
their nipples being caressed while their vulva is being licked
(and we’ll delve more into that later in the book)
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Light kisses work best here, because there
needs to be a transition between the top half of the body and
the lower half
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Don’t stay too long in
this zone because it is not directly giving her pleasure
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Inner Thighs – this is a good place to go before jumping right
into the vulva
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This will get her anticipating your tongue
even more! Be careful of ticklish thighs, however, and avoid
nibbling if your partner is ticklish
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Again, be aware that too long in between pleasurable
activities (or in this case, too long before finally giving her vulva
pleasure) may frustrate her and turn her off
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Let’s Get Down To Business
Cunnilingus Techniques

Okay, so here we are…cunnilingus techniques
...
So if you’ve skipped ahead and
are just starting, go back to the beginning! Jumping in now and putting
your face between your partner’s legs right off will do nothing but put her
off
...
But also remember that it can be painfully sensitive as well –
which means that direct stimulation can sometimes have the exact opposite
effect that you want it to
...
Now you need to get her vulva
involved
...
One of the most sensual and exciting experiences for a
woman during cunnilingus is to have her entire vulva explored eagerly and
completely with a warm, wet tongue
...
There are, however, a few tongue techniques that
you can utilize before moving directly to the clitoris
...
Start at
her perineum (or her vaginal opening if you don’t want to go
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quite that far down south) and work your way up
...
This “wide lapping” move is a great first move
– it simply feels wonderful to have a warm, wet tongue covering
the entire vulva and moving up slowly, enhancing every last
sensation
...


In between the labia – this is a great move to help transition
from the wide, slow strokes into more detailed cunnilingus
...
A very sharp and
pointed tongue is generally not something you want to use
during this particular technique – leave that to clitoral flicking,
which we’ll go over later in the clitoral stimulation techniques
...
Use
your flat or semi-pointed tongue (semi-pointed does work best)
and work your way slowly in between her inner and outer labia
from top to bottom
...


Again, you’ll want to avoid the clitoris for the most part during
this technique; however, if your lady is getting a little antsy, you
can lick between her labia and move up, brushing the side of
the clitoris with the side of your tongue
...
Another great technique you can use while focusing
more on the entirety of the vulva (before reaching the clitoris) is
what some like to call a “lollipop lick
...
Cheese’s) –
from the outside in
...
If you
wish, you can end the “lollipop” on her clitoris and begin to use
the clitoral techniques outlined below
...
Bring your tongue back down to
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her vaginal opening and insert it gently, much like you would a
finger if you were pleasuring her with your hands
...
Just licking barely in and out of the vaginal opening will
give her a great feeling, so no need to try and reach her cervix
with your tongue
...
Her vaginal
opening is sensitive as well (not as sensitive as the clitoral head
or shaft) and she will get a wonderful preview of the tongue
strokes you are getting ready to use that will bring her to a
delicious orgasm
...
This creates a soft, sucking
sensation that will send chills down her spine (and you will
probably receive a few moans in appreciation)
...
Gently sucking her labia in
and out of your pursed lips feels exceptionally wonderful, but
make sure that if you are going to use your lips that they are
nice and wet (by this time, she may already be wet enough for
the both of you)
...
A great way to use
both the lips and the tongue together during cunnilingus is to
act as though you’re French kissing her vulva
...
Another variation on this technique is to place your
entire mouth on her vulva
...


WARNING: DO NOT BLOW AIR INTO HER VAGINA
(LIKE BLOWING UP A BALLOON) – THIS IS
DANGEROUS AND MAY CAUSE SERIOUS
COMPLICATIONS AND MAY EVEN RESULT IN DEATH
...
You are about to enter the clitoral technique section
and as we’ve said before, aroused clitorises are much too
sensitive for sudden movements
...
Go from gently flicking your tongue around her
vaginal opening and fourchette to exploring her labia and move
back and forth between these moves for a short while
...


Tip: Again, keep in mind that the above techniques are getting
your partner warmed up for clitoral technique and that they are
not a substitute for clitoral technique
...
A clitoris left alone when aroused is much like the
legendary “blue balls” for men – it is uncomfortable and it just
plain doesn’t feel good
...


“X” Marks The Spot
Clitoral Stimulation Techniques

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Chapter 6 – Think Outside The Box

It is important to note here that most women respond well to clitoral
stimulation outside the clitoral hood
...
An outside approach works best – after all, the protection of the
clitoral head is exactly what the clitoral hood was designed to do
...
Any of these clitoral stimulation techniques can be
performed with the tongue focused on the outside of the clitoral hood, with
the exception of the upwards stroke
...
Moves and techniques must be repeated and varied –
keep your partner guessing! Don’t forget, however, that you must also
develop a rhythm and keep it, especially close to orgasm
...


Sweeping – this move is great! It simply feels wonderful to a
woman and should be a staple of any cunnilingus diet
...


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Variations on this move: Using both fast and slow strokes
(it is best to start out a bit slower at first so as not to
surprise your partner and gradually move into a faster
pace) can maximize the pleasurable outcome of this
particular technique
...
You can certainly try it – some women do like
upwards strokes on their clitoris
...


Circles – this too is one of the best and most pleasurable clitoral
technique in cunnilingus
...
You will begin to move your tongue in circles
around the clitoris only, either in a clockwise or counter-clockwise
motion
...


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Variations on this move: Again, you can use either fast
strokes or slow strokes, and as always, slow works best in the
beginning if you choose to use the circular motion in the beginning of
your cunnilingus routine
...
As with
most of the clitoral techniques outlined in this section, the strokes can
also be varied in their degrees of softness or hardness
...
Another way to vary the technique
with this move or other moves is to change your tongue “shapes
...
The latter in particular is a wonderful trick to have in your
cunnilingus arsenal - it will keep one move from becoming
monotonous even though it is technically the same move! Just
remember – variation (yet still keeping a repetitive rhythm) is key to
giving your partner the most exquisite and mind-blowing orgasm
...
Suction too early in the game may turn her
off completely by putting too much pressure on her sensitive clitoris too
soon
...
Remember; don’t
get too rough with this move! This can be easy to do, so it is very important
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that you pay attention to your partner’s cues and movements
...
Most women enjoy this move;
however, some do not so always make sure you are aware of your
partner’s responses to ensure that you aren’t using any techniques that are
uncomfortable to her
...


ABC’s – you might have heard of this technique before, but then
again, you might have not
...

Yes, you heard right
...
But wait a second! If the
sensations are really all that similar to the circular strokes, why even do the
ABC strokes at all? Well, there’s the money question
...
You get the
best of all the worlds – perfect contact, an excellent rhythm but here’s the
rub – no two strokes are exactly the same
...


Variations on this move: It is difficult to vary a practically
perfect technique – and yes, we’re going so far as to say that the ABC
technique is perfect
...
You can try tracing your
shapes instead (circle, square, triangle, rectangle, octagon, etc
...
You can also trace numbers – count from one to
...
Place your mouth over your
partner’s clitoris and gently (we emphasize gently) suck it in and out of your
mouth
...
Using it before your partner is fully ready (too
early during cunnilingus) may result in her rejecting the sensation
completely
...
It may be too strong of a
sensation during an orgasm
...
Vary this move with just the suction move and you’ll soon have
your honey in orgasm heaven
...
Used sparingly and at the right
times, however, can be very beneficial during a cunnilingus session
...
Some women may really go for this (especially very
close to and during an orgasm) and others may be turned off by the mere
name of it
...
Basically, this
move encompasses all the other techniques (such as tongue circles or
gentle vacuum suction) but in somewhat of a “smorgasbord” fashion
...
On the same
token, however, you’ve still got to keep in mind that the clitoris is very
sensitive and although you may be going at it like you’re at a pie-eating
contest, you don’t want to go caveman on her and rough her up
...


TIP: If you’ve exhausted all your moves and are looking
for a new repertoire, try watching people eat while you’re out at lunch or
dinner
...
Make a mental
note of the lip and tongue movements used and use them during
cunnilingus the next time you go south of the border
...
Get creative! While there are
only so many different types of tongue techniques that you can actually
use, you can alter the order in which you use them, the pressure of the
touch and more to make them completely different moves! Don’t be afraid
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to make up your own moves too! If using ice or hot tea really turns you and
your partner on, go for it!
If your partner only enjoys one or two tongue techniques but she really gets
off on them, don’t be afraid to stick with just those moves to get her to
orgasm time and time again
...
Keep trying! Your efforts
will be much appreciated and she can enjoy a cunnilingus session without
having to have an orgasm as a result of it
...
But your partner may be craving
a little more stimulation and your tongue may be getting just a wee bit tired
...


Using Your Hands

Hands and fingers are the most popular complement to oral sex for both
men and women
...
There are other times when using our hands just gets in the way
...
If she seems
to be shrinking away, try another hand technique or take the hand away
altogether
...
This
can be said of all cunnilingus efforts though, so keep a watchful eye on
your partner
...
There are so many more ways to pleasure
your partner with your finger inside her and your tongue outside her! Be
wary of just sticking your finger inside her vaginal opening though – you’ll
want to observe some niceties first
...
You should almost never have to
use lubricant because you will have sufficiently warmed your partner up
first and performed some cunnilingus on her already, however, we know
that some ladies are drier than others and may require lubricant
...
Remember, baby oil and oil-based lubricants will break down
latex and they aren’t that great anyways
...
This is a big one – you don’t
want to jam your finger in there because that will probably end the entire
cunnilingus session and several future cunnilingus sessions right then and
there
...

You can keep your finger straight or you can put a bit of a bend in it if you
like to help reach the G-spot (and we’ll go over that in detail a little later in
this section)
...

One of the most popular fingering moves is to slide the tip of your finger in
and out of her vaginal canal about ½ an inch – you can even move your
fingertips in circles to trace the outer rim of her vagina
...
You can twist your finger as you go in and out as well –
this creates a wonderful sensation that carries throughout the entire vaginal
canal
...
So unless your partner asks for
it, don’t go jamming more than two fingers in her vagina at a time
...


TIP: Also be sure that if you’re not wearing gloves
or a finger cot that your fingernails are clean and trimmed well with no
hangnails
...


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- As far as helping hands go, you generally want to stay
away from the clitoris with your fingers
...
Cunnilingus is not cunnilingus if your finger is doing the work
that your tongue should be doing
...
You can use your fingers to do other things, such as
feel inside her labia or spread the labia out, or tug gently on her mons pubis
to stretch the skin out, causing her vulva to be more responsive and
sensitive to the efforts of your tongue
...
First off, what is the
G-spot? It is nothing more than a small dime-to-quarter-sized bundle of
nerves about two inches inside of the vaginal canal
...
Surprisingly, a woman can experience an orgasm from G-spot
stimulation alone; however, the feeling of this type of orgasm differs greatly
from a clitoral orgasm
...
Therefore, it is probably a good thing for you to
discover where your partner’s G-spot is and put that knowledge to good
use every once in awhile
...

The G-spot is fairly simple to find
...
You can also use your middle
finger if you like, if your partner’s G-spot is just a tad further up the canal
...
That
should pretty much do it
...
Combine
this technique with some of the clitoral stimulation techniques (with your
tongue!) and your honey will be in heaven!

Using Toys

For the really advanced cunnilingus masters (or those who are just looking
to try out a few new tricks), the use of toys during cunnilingus may spice it
up just a bit
...
She may not be comfortable with the idea
at all or she may be comfortable with some things and not others
...
If she seems apprehensive about it, don’t push the
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issue
...
Of course, if she
isn’t willing to use toys in the bedroom period, it is important that you leave
it at that to avoid making her feel uncomfortable
...


What kind of toys can I use?

There are lots and lots to choose from in this department
...


Outside the vulva – these toys are probably the best to start out
with, especially if your partner or you are at all apprehensive about bringing
toys into the bedroom
...
We should probably note that most of the
toys that are used outside the vulva offer some sort of vibration
...
If you’re not keen to visit an XXX store to
purchase something specially designed, a trip to your local department
store or general store should suffice
...
Foot massagers and the like generally won’t get
the job done, so stick with a good back massaging wand for maximum
effect
...
Most of these are
small, wand-like vibrators (some are even waterproof) that stimulate the
clitoris in just the precise way
...
Do be careful however – it is important that
your partner be involved in both making the decision to bring toys into the
bedroom

Inside the Vagina – these types of toys are generally not for
beginners
...
These toys are generally
phallic-shaped and some are even made with silicone to directly resemble
an erect penis
...
There are many shapes
and sizes, so it is important to choose one that both you and your partner
are comfortable with
...
Generally, you will only find toys such as these in a XXX
store
...
It is never good to rely
solely on a toy during a cunnilingus session (unless this is something your
partner has directly requested), so be sure to provide most of the
stimulation with your warm, wet tongue utilizing the techniques described
earlier in the book
...


It is important to pay attention to your lady’s cues at this time as well –
you’ll need to find out how fast she likes it, what kind of pressure she likes,
so on and so forth
...

Be careful though! This must always be done gently and you must take
your cues from your partner or it could spell disaster
...

Once you and your partner become more comfortable with toys, this may
not be necessary for every cunnilingus session – the key is, of course, to
follow your partner’s cues
...
Do not purchase something you think she’ll like and whip it
out seconds before a cunnilingus session! She will need to determine the
size, shape, color and intensity of every toy that is going to be used during
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cunnilingus (or intercourse) and she may even feel like different toys based
on her mood
...


Cunnilingus Positions
The Kama Sutra of Cunnilingus

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Chapter 8 – The Essence of Change

Let’s face it – intercourse, no matter when and how you do it, always has
the same basic concept – put the penis in the vaginal canal and move it in
and out (or back and forth, depending on how you like to think of it) until
one or both partners have an orgasm
...
Many couples like to mix up their sexual
routines not by changing what they’re doing but how they’re doing it
...
We can steal this idea for
cunnilingus and use it much to our advantage! Cunnilingus too, has the
same basic concept – lick the vulva
...
By varying the positions in which you perform cunnilingus on your
partner, you can tantalize her, excite her and bring her to a more powerful
orgasm than you ever thought imaginable
...
In this position, your partner lays on a flat surface and
you place your head squarely between her legs
...
The only drawback of this particular
cunnilingus position is that it is very hard on the man’s neck to continue to
pleasure his partner in this way
...
If you are one of the latter gentlemen and this
particular position tends to cause your neck to stiffen up but your partner
really enjoys this position, you can try placing a pillow or two underneath
her buttocks to help raise her vulva to a comfortable level for you – one in
which your neck is not quite as bent
...
Generally, the latter position
is only for women who are very comfortable with cunnilingus and who are
extremely turned on at the time
...
If you both are feeling really randy
(providing your partner has this type of mobility with her legs) she can bring
her legs all the way up towards her head, resting her knees on her chest
...
The latter position gives you the most unrestricted
access of all the variations – but be sure to ask your partner first if she is
comfortable with the position both physically and emotionally
...
These variations can also be varied – isn’t this
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such a versatile position? She can place one foot on the surface of the bed
and the other on your shoulder, she can place on foot on your shoulder and
the other knee against her chest or she can place on foot on the surface of
the bed and the other knee against her chest to allow for even wider
access
...


Legs on Bed – this is another popular move and honestly, is not
quite that different from the “Legs Up” position with the exception, of
course, that the legs are never “up,” however, they are always touching the
bed
...
This generally is not a better position for
the neck, though, so if your neck is bothersome, continue reading to the
other positions
...
This is a position in
which you can easily lie down, if that is more comfortable to you
...


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Variations on this move: Your partner can open her legs
to any degree that she likes while still keeping the majority of her legs on
the bed
...
It is suggested that you try several
different variations on this position and discuss with your partner which you
like best
...
Also
be aware that having her legs fully closed really only gives you access to
her clitoris – it does not allow access to the inner or outer labia, the
fourchette or the entrance to her vaginal canal
...


Backwards – this is by far the most comfortable cunnilingus
position for those of you who get stiff necks with most of the other
cunnilingus positions
...
This is
great for the neck because the neck retains a much more natural position –
such as staying straight or bending downwards ever so slightly – and is
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great for men who like to take a long time on their ladies or ladies who take
a long time to orgasm
...
If both partners enjoy simultaneous oral
sex, it can be of great benefit to both of them by allowing them to feel more
emotionally and physically connected
...
One of the best benefits of this position (no matter
the variation) is that facing her vulva downwards naturally allows for a
downward tongue stroke
...
As with the closed-leg position, the
backwards position does not allow for much more than clitoral stimulation
as the tongue can’t reach quite to the back of the vulva and all the way to
the vaginal canal, however, it does allow more access than the closed-leg
position
...
You can remain on top (either pleasuring just her or
receiving pleasure yourself) or you can choose to be on the bottom, with
her vulva on top of your mouth
...
Generally, however, most men
do not have complaints about being on the bottom of a backwards
cunnilingus position
...
This being
completely understandable, a popular variation on this cunnilingus position
is the side-to-side “backwards” – meaning that both partners are on their
sides with each partner’s feet by the other’s head
...
This position can go far if you just get a little creative and talk to
your partner about the different ideas you both have about the backwards
position and simultaneous oral sex
...
With
this position, your partner will place herself on a solid surface (such as the
floor or a bed) on all fours, tilting her hips slightly towards the ceiling
...
The
variations on this position is what make it so unique – while the woman
generally stays in that same position, her partner can alter his placement in
regards to her vulva any which way he chooses, making each doggy style
cunnilingus session different
...


Variations on this move: This is where the creativity can
come in! You can alter the different variations of this particular cunnilingus
position by alternating your positioning
...
This is also a variation
on the “Sit on My Face” position in which we will go into more detail about
later
...
You can also have her get on all fours
on the bed and position yourself on your knees on the floor so that her
vulva is just about eye level to you and perform cunnilingus on your partner
that way
...

Generally, you will lie down on the bed face up and your partner will “sit” on
your face by positioning each knee on either side of your head and her
vulva just above your mouth, giving you only enough distance to breathe
and suck and lick her vulva
...
Of course,
for many couples this is an extreme turn-on but for some, this kind of
uninhibited view can make one or both partners a little uncomfortable
...


Variations on this move: A great way to increase your
comfort during this move is to support your head with a pillow – this will
keep you comfortable long enough to perform the necessary tongue
techniques to bring your partner to orgasm
...
You can, however, have your
partner face away from you (facing your feet) if she likes and this is a great
option for any woman who wants to try this particular cunnilingus position
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but is a little shy about her body
...

This may or may not be an issue for you, but if you decide to try this
version of the “Sit on My Face” position, make sure that it is not
...
This helps support the
woman’s body and gives her the chance to relax and enjoy your
cunnilingus efforts without worrying about holding her body straight and
trying not to suffocate you
...
Find a few that really work great and
stick to them, unless both you and your partner are feeling particularly
turned-on and the mood – then you can try some of the more randy
positions
...
Any way you look at it, cunnilingus is a must-have
staple to any sexual repertoire and if you can master some of the
techniques, your partner will love you for it! Keep in mind that you don’t
have to become a cunnilingus connoisseur just to please your partner
...
Don’t exhaust your cunnilingus techniques
every time you have intercourse or sexual relations with your partner – this
keeps it from being special!
Do, however, give your partner an excellent, well-planned and thoughtful
cunnilingus session complete with the romancing and relaxing beforehand
and to-die-for tongue techniques
...
Keep in
mind that not only is cunnilingus a physical sensation, it also awakens a
very spiritual and emotional being within your partner and if you let her, she
will share this emotional side with you through both the giving and taking of
sexual pleasure
...


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