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How to Get a Girl to Fall in Love with
You
Part (1):Understanding Attraction

1)
Learn how physical attraction works
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We are hard-wired to love! Attraction is
based in brain chemistry
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● Dopamine is one of your brain’s “feel-good” chemicals (it’s where the term “dope”
comes from)
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When you meet someone you’re attracted to, dopamine starts sending feel-good
chemical “rewards” to your system
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​[2]​ Norepinephrine
is responsible for your ability to “block out” information that isn’t as interesting
as the smart partner in front of you
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When you are very attracted to someone, serotonin
decreases your body temperature, which makes your skin slightly more able to
conduct electricity
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● In fact, experts say that attraction stimulates the same chemicals in the brain
that addiction does, such as dopamine and oxytocin
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● lessresearcher at Rutgers University suggests that it takes ​
A than one second

for the brain to decide whether it considers someone to be attractive or not
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○ If not, don’t take it personally: people are not able to manage spontaneous
impulses and what is judged may not have anything to do negatively with
you
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There is nothing wrong with being either
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However, what it does make clear is that love
and attraction is a fundamental part of how we are hard-wired
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And sometimes the chemistry ​

right

or wrong
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​ Women are generally attracted to men that demonstrate that they
are able to care for themselves
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Keeping your body feeling and looking strong and healthy, is a big evolutionary
sign of your “reproductive fitness” — basically, a sign that your genes are strong and

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healthy too
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● This does not mean you have to go overboard and become a marathoner or a
bodybuilder
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Be the best version of yourself and be true to yourself, and
remember that you do not have to be the best looking to be good looking
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​ ​Your physical appearance and presence is the biggest
first impression
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You can have a great online profile and
interaction, but if you finally meet the girl in real life and you reek of body odor and
wear unflattering clothing, that will make a stronger impression than any online chat
room
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Women in most industrialized societies are put off by strong body
odors
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● Take care of your body
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whatever
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● Wear attractive clothing
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If your clothing is unattractive, off-putting, or really odd, that sends a signal
that there may be something wrong with the wearer
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​ ​Body language can be either conscious (like

winking at someone) or subconscious (like your lips reddening or pupils dilating)
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Most body language signs relevant to physical attraction communicate a
few basic messages
I am available: Lack of a likely partner, and looks confident and emotionally balanced
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● I am harmless: There is no aggressive or "strange" behavior
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● I am approachable: Body language appears to be open and relaxed
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​ Body language cues that say “I’m available” and
“I’m approachable” suggest that the other person is in a state of mind that is
receptive to your advances
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Standing or sitting with the arms and legs relaxed and uncrossed
Keeping her feet pointed toward you if you’re having a conversation
Glancing at you from a distance, looking away for a time, then looking at
you--not staring
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​ Some body language is unconscious and happens when we
are attracted to someone
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Looking for these cues
can help you figure out if your tender feeling for the girl is reciprocal
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● A suddenly racing heart or more rapid breathing
● Licking her lips​[13]

● Subtly echoing your body language
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● Momentary touches
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● Remember: none of these behaviors will definitively mean she is attracted to
you
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The girl with rosy
cheeks and dilated pupils who moves her purse for you on the bus may just be a
courteous and easily flushed girl who just came back from the eye doctor!

7)
Pay attention to the way she is smiling
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(It may also just be a sign

that she’s friendly, so make sure to check out her other body language cues as well
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Genuine smiles, also called ​
use the muscles around the eyes as
well as the mouth
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There’s a reason Tyra Banks is always telling
models to “smile with your eyes

8)
Signal your own attraction
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Make eye contact with her and smile
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Maybe move to a closer table in the coffee shop, or go
grab a napkin while she is at the condiment station
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● Tilt your head if you are talking to her or looking at her
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9)
Try an opening gambit
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Despite the general creepiness of the pickup artist community,
you don’t have to be a 'creepster' to use an opening gambit
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These are honest and get straight to the point, like “I think you’re
really cute” or “I’m kind of shy, but I’d love to chat with you
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● The ​
opener
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● The ​

opener
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Both men and women in general rank these as the least attractive option
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● Studies have also shown that honest and supportive gambits more often result
in long-term relationships, whereas strategies that use manipulation or
dishonesty (like the cute/flippant gambit) result in short-term relationships

10)​Try a gentle touch if you sense that she is inviting you
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If you have been talking for awhile and the girl seems

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interested in you, you can try a light brush of her arm or touch her hand
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Even then, proceed with caution
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● If the girl responds negatively to your touch, apologize, and do not try again for
a while
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Being overly aggressive will not
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What is acceptable
in Colorado may not be in Morocco
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● If you're unsure at all, ask for physical touching! For instance, holding out your
hand to give it a friendly shake
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You do ​

have to physically touch a girl

in the early stages of flirting
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● The moment for a touch will often "just happen"
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The two of you reach
for the same tater tot at the cafeteria, or she puts her hand on yours at the
movies, or something along those lines
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