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The Art of Approaching
How to meet ANY woman, ANY time, ANY where

 
By
Thundercat
  
www
...
com

 
 

Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION
 
PART I:  THEORY OF APPROACHING
What is an Opener?
What is Interest?
Types of Openers
Intruders
Timing
Tonality
Body Language
Group Approaches
After the Approach
 
PART II:  TYPES OF OPENERS
Advice Openers
Compliment Openers
Direct Openers
Drama Openers

Insult Openers
Joke Openers
Online Openers
Opinion Openers
Roleplay Openers
Situational Openers
 
PART III:  LEARNING TO APPROACH
Fear of the Approach
Overcoming the Barriers
Bootcamp
Bootcamp Goals
Long Term Bootcamp Goals
Bootcamp Breakdown
 
AFTERWARD
 
BIBLIOGRAPHY

 
 
 

Introduction
 
I’d like to start this off by prefacing that I
am NOT the best guy there is when it comes
to picking-up women
...
 I struggle
daily trying to meet the woman of my
dreams, and like so many other guys, fall
into the traps of giving into to her every
whim or getting caught up in unnecessary
“drama
...

 
What this book is designed to do is to teach
you how to MEET people
...

 
You don’t have to be a master seducer or
licensed Hypnotist to know how to meet
people
...
 Our typical
living arrangement would last roughly three
years in one place before we’d have to pack
up and move to another city, state, or even
country
...
  This

background taught me many things, the
biggest of which is how to meet people
quickly and effectively
...
 You do it every day
...
  But there
is an art to meeting someone
...

 
This is especially true when it comes to
women
...
 I’ve known big, tough, burly guys
who wouldn’t flinch at the sight of a gun
pointed to their face, but put them in a
situation where they have to meet a
beautiful girl, and they’re as worthless as
tits on a log (though some would argue that
tits are never worthless, but I digress…)
...
 The
type of guy who’d rather get a root canal
than talk to a girl
...

 

In this book, we’re going to discuss the
following:
 
• The Concept of “Openers”
• The Different Types of Openers
• Specific Examples of Openers
• Stacking Openers
• Why Men Are Afraid To Talk to Women
• Body Language
• Tonality
• Places to Find Women to Meet
• How to Meet People in Groups
• What Openers Work Best for Specific
Environments
• A Step by Step Way to Break You of
Your Fear of Approaching
 
By the time you are finished reading and
internalizing the material outlined in this
book, you will have NO PROBLEM meeting
any woman you want, any time you want,
any where you want
...
  This
section will lay the groundwork on the
concepts that will be discussed later on in
this book, along with different tactics and
strategies that one must be aware of if they
are going to learn to approach any woman
they want, anytime they want, anywhere
they may be
...
  The sound of that sneeze causes a
herd of zebras to stampede, disrupting the
flow of wind current, which helps create a
hurricane in the South Pacific, which causes
American Airlines to cancel their flights that
night, which means the girl of your dreams is
forced to stay in town for one more day
...

 
Now what?
 
Though fate may have acted in your favor up
to this point by doing the exact things
necessary to get that exact girl to show up in
that exact location at the exact same time
that you would be there, the fact remains
that it is now up to you to take action
...

 
Not in the literal sense of course
...
 The idea of “opening”
is the notion of approaching a woman with
the express intent of engaging her in a
conversation
...
”
 
The “opener” is a line that is used to initiate
the conversation
...
 “Pick-up Lines” are
forms of openers, but openers can be
anything to get the girl talking
...
 If you DON’T
open a woman, your chance of seeing her
again and leading into a relationship or sex is
approximately zero! After all, you can’t
further an interaction that’s never been

initiated
...
 From the
opener, you have many different threads you
can follow, from friendship, to girlfriend, to
one night stand, your options are only
limited by your own beliefs and social skills
...
 Believe it or not, there is a wrong
way to approach someone, which we’ll cover
later on in the book
...
”

 
 
 

What is Interest?
 
There is more to Opening a woman than
simply knowing what to say
...
  I don’t want to bog you down with
too much theory here, because honestly,
every rule or guideline I lay out in this book
can be broken if the context is right, but I
think this is an important concept for
everyone to grasp
...
”  A
dictionary-like example of this would be:
She has an interest in the quality of her
education
...

 
This is important to know, because most
people can be very transparent with their
interests, especially when it comes to
dealing with other people
...
, etc
...

 
As human beings, we have an innate instinct
for when people are interested in us
...
 When someone is sexually attracted to
us, there are certain signals we pick up on
which telegraph this Interest
...
 I call the displaying of
these signals “Telegraphing Interest
...
  Now, obviously, whenever a
man approaches a woman, she knows what’s
up
...
 But by Telegraphing Interest, you are
making it obvious to her conscious mind
what your intentions are, and this will put
her on guard
...

 
So what’s a guy to do? Basically, in order to
combat this, you have to shift gears a bit
and start Telegraphing DISinterest
...
 
You can do this by utilizing the concept of
“active disinterest
...
 There is an
important reason why those two words
should be paired up
...

 
Let me give you an example of what I’m
talking about:  Have you ever been out and
about, maybe in a bar or a club, and you see
a beautiful woman
...

 

I’m willing to bet the answer is “Hardly
ever,” if at all
...
” Inactive Disinterest is a way of
pretending you’re not interested in someone
without doing anything to draw attention to
the fact that you’re not interested in
them
...
 Rather, the
distinction that you’re “disinterested” in
your target is only apparent in your mind
...
  Hence -- “active
disinterest
...
 Why is this
effective? Especially since we already
established that most women know that the
man is interested if he approaches in the
first place? Simple
...
 In short: You are sending
mixed signals
...
  But put yourself
in their position for a moment…
 

Imagine going through your average day, and
being approached by a number of people
who compliment you on your looks, your
clothing, or an accessory of some sort, all
because they want something from you
...

 
This is the reality of women, especially
beautiful women
...
  They get untold offers
every day to have sex
...
 So
girls, naturally, become accustomed to
rejecting advances that telegraph intent,
much the same way you might respond to a
vagrant asking for change as you walk to
work
...

 
When you approach a woman and say “Hey
baby, lookin’ good tonight,” you are
telegraphing interest in an aggressive
manor
...
  May I
please buy you a drink?” you are not only
telegraphing interest, but also doing so in a
very wimpy way
...
  You do not telegraph interest while
neither coming off aggressive nor coming off

you the widest possible palate from which to
paint the rest of your interaction with the
woman you are talking to
...
 It gives you the opportunity you
need to win her over
...
 Otherwise you run
the risk of making the girl bored and having
her walk away looking for something more
interesting to partake in
...


 
 
  

Types of Openers
 
There are many different kinds of Openers
out there
...
 But the purpose of an Opener
is to be engaging
...
 They are:
 
1
...
Compliment Openers
3
...
Drama Openers
5
...
Joke Openers
7
...
Opinion Openers
9
...
Situational Openers
 
Throughout the course of this book, I’ll

be quite involved
...
 
These four things are: Intruders, Timing,
Tonality, and Body Language
...


 
 
 

Intruders
 
As people go about their daily lives, they
exist within a personal bubble they create
for themselves
...
 When you’re driving down
the street and see other cars on the road,
the people in those cars have a destination
they have to get to, and they are consumed
with getting to that destination
...

 
In short, everyone exists in their own
personal bubble
...

 
So if your goal is to approach someone,
you’re going to have to infiltrate that bubble
they erect around themselves
...
 I call these exclamations
“Intruders,” because when you use them,
they allow you intrude upon these personal
bubbles
...
Hi
2
...
Yo
4
...
 These four
simple words allow us to easily enter
people’s personal bubbles and begin
interacting with them
...

 
For instance, the Intruder “Hi
...
 It works best in low
key atmospheres like dinner parties
...
 Saying “Hi” before
you’ve gotten eye contact has a good
possibility of putting your target on
guard
...
  You can’t call it out
forcefully when you see someone walking
ahead of you on the sidewalk that you want
to meet
...
 

“Hi” is also rather impersonal and even a bit
formal
...

 
The Intruder “Hey,” is much more
versatile
...
  The reason
for this is that the word “Hi” imposes you on
your target, whereas the word “Hey”
engages your target and prompts them to
interact with you
...

 
“Yo” is the opposite of the formal “Hi” and
the neutral “Hey
...
 “Yo” is an Intruder that can
be used forcefully to enter a personal bubble
as well
...
  However, “Yo” is a very selfish
intruder because it indicates that you may
want something from your target (which you
do, but this Intruder may telegraph that)
...
  “Stop” is a very forceful intruder, and

instantly establishes a sort of authority for
yourself
...
 In other words, it is most
effective when your target is engaging in
some type of activity, such as walking,
jogging, playing a game or sport, leaving a
venue, etc
...

 
You may notice that I have left out the
phrase “Excuse me,” from the list of
common Intruders
...
 The phrase “Excuse
me,” rather than injecting yourself into your
target’s personal bubble, instead asks
permission from your target to be included
in their personal bubble
...
  The purpose of Intruders is to give
your target no choice but to let you in,
something which “Excuse me” does not
do
...

 
Plurals
 
Intruders work for single targets, but they
also work well for groups
...
  The exception to this is when
you use the Intruder “Stop,” because “Stop”
can be used for one person or a thousand

people, and it carries the same meaning
...
”  Approaching a group with the
Intruder “Hi guys,” “Hey guys,” or “Yo
guys,” will help you infiltrate the group
bubble they’ve created
...
  “Hi there,” and “Hey there,”
will get you good effect
...

 
Some plurals you will want to avoid when
using Intruders is “girls,” or “ladies” when
approaching women you desire
...
  Obviously, you
CAN use both these plurals and succeed, but
it’ll make your job harder
...
 It’s
best to keep neutral when Intruding upon
someone’s personal bubble
...
  This is
why you’ll want to add in “Time
Constraints” into your Intruders
...
  What this does is
bypass that resistance they would put up
because you are presenting yourself as just a
momentary distraction to their daily lives
...

 
Some examples of Time Constraints are:
 
1
...
I’ve only got a few seconds…
3
...
I gotta get going in a minute…
5
...
This’ll only take a second…
 
All of these time constraints set the stage
for a quick interaction, which you’ll find
most people are open to
...

 
Structure of Intruders

 
The combinations you can create for
Intruders are quite numerous, and they all
work
...
Single Intruder
2
...
Intruder

Plural

4
...


 
 
 

Timing
 
As with anything else in life, timing is
everything
...
 As a general rule of thumb, the quicker
you can approach someone after first
noticing them, the better
...
 This is a pretty
good guideline to follow, but the reality is,
you can approach someone at any time you
please
...

 
Eventually, you’re going to want to train
yourself to approach automatically, so that
it becomes instinctual to do so as soon as
you see your target
...
 
When you chicken out because you think
“too much time has passed,” you’re just
rationalizing your desire to stay in your safe

little comfort zone
...
 Tonality
refers to the volume, pitch, and tone of your
voice
...
  But if you’re
not careful, your tonality can actually drive
people away from you, no matter how
engaging your material is
...
  Women respond well to men with
deep tonality, not only because the pitch is
pleasing to their ears, but because a deep
tone represents confidence
...

 
A test to see if you are speaking from your
diaphragm is to place your hand flat on your
chest, and focus speaking from that area
...


 
Another thing to be aware of is volume
...
 If you have
great things to talk about, but a girl cannot
hear you, he’s going to get frustrated and
bored and eventually be distracted by
something that does not require so much
effort on their part to pay attention to
...
  High volume can convey a sense
of excitement and confidence, and when you
combine it with good tonality, you are
projecting all the right signals to portray
yourself as a fun, outgoing, and engaging
person
...
 The way we carry
ourselves says a lot about us
...

 
So Body Language is something to keep in
mind when you are approaching women
...
The Walk-Up
2
...
” Most guys will
approach their target dead on, making for
them in a straight line, with little regard for
how aggressive it may look
...
 This is much less aggressive and more
under the radar
...
  Instead, turn your body to
them slightly to “soften” your
approach
...

 
The Conversation is the period of time when
you actually start talking to your target
...
  This can be accomplished by
putting your weight on your back foot
...
  And
most importantly – SMILE!
 
Smiling is the single most important piece of
body language there is to convey an
engaging, friendly attitude
...
 If you look at
people throughout the day, in a bar, club,
bus, work, what have you, most guys are not
smiling
...

 
Good body language, coupled with good
tonality, will make you seem more
confident, outgoing, engaging, and fun than
anyone else around you
...


 
 
 

Group Approaches
 
There’s a secret many people might not
know about approaching
...
 But once you know this secret, your
ability to meet any woman, any time,
anywhere you may want will literally
skyrocket!
 
This was a secret that was hidden from me
for many, many years
...
 So you
wanna know what it is? It’s pretty simple
...
  So you
ready for it?  Okay, hold on, because here it
comes:
 
Approaching groups of people is easier than
approaching people who are by themselves
...
  It seems
unnatural – you would THINK that a group

would be harder to approach then someone
who’s by themselves
...
  The reason for this is that old
maxim – There’s safety in numbers
...
  They feel more vulnerable, and so
are more resistant to people outside their
established social circles
...
 So
if you know how to approach groups of
people, your success with interacting with
women will increase exponentially
...
  In these
venues, people tend to go out with their
friends looking to have a good time
...
 So if you hope to be
successful in these social venues, you MUST
know how to approach groups of people (and
when I say groups of PEOPLE, that’s what I
mean
...

 
This is where Group Theory comes into
play
...
” 
Mystery developed a very effective means of

approaching groups of people in any venue,
which he has dubbed Group Theory
...
 You
can find out all about Mystery and his
method of approaching women at
www
...
com
...
 There are two categories of people
in every group: 
 
1
...
Your obstacles
 
Your target is, of course, the person you
wish to get alone eventually so you can
begin forming a relationship with them
...

 
The first thing to keep in mind once you
have determined who your target is and who
your obstacles are is this: You never
approach your target first
...
  So
you want to throw off this resistance by
Opening one of your obstacles
...
 You simply Open the person who
is not your target
...
 Which obstacle do you
Open?
 
The truth is, you can Open any obstacle you
want
...
  In every group, there is usually
someone who takes charge and leads the
group in its decision making
...
A very assertive and outgoing woman
2
...
  By
contrast, in a group of three or more
women, the one talking the most or the
loudest is usually the leader
...
 In this case, you don’t
have to figure out who the most “Alpha” of
the guys are and open him first, the opening
of any guy in the group will do
...
 Open one of your
obstacles and let the leader engage you,
then turn your attention to her
...
 If they decide the
group should do something else other than
talk to you, the group is going to do that and
your conversation is going to die a quick and
painful death
...
 Tell the group a
funny story, show them you’re a cool guy,
entertain them, befriend them
...

 
You want to get to your target last, because
not only will that deter any notion that
you’re overtly interested in them, but once

the group accepts you, your target will be
forced to accept you without resistance,
because you already won over her peer
group
...

 
So to break down the strategy for group
approaches:
 
1
...
Determine who your Target is
3
...
Determine who the Leader is
5
...
Open the Leader or the Obstacles
7
...
Open your Target
 
When you have the ability to Open groups of
people, your social interactions will become
more numerous, because of the fact that
most people travel in groups
...


 
 
 

After the Approach
 
Something you’ll want to be aware of is
what to say AFTER you have successfully
Opened your target
...

 
For every Opener you have, be sure to have
a good story to follow it up with
...
  Some might be tempted
to say “But I don’t have any good
stories!” But any story can be a good one if
told correctly
...
 Things
happen to us every day that might not stand
out in our minds, but that other people find
interesting
...
 If you are passionate
about your stories, others will be as well
...
  This is where you

use one Opener after another, and continue
to do so until the conclusion of the
conversation
...

 
Although stories are important, attitude is
also a big factor in meeting and dating
women
...
doubleyourdating
...
 The
book’s author, David DeAngelo, lays out
some great concepts to help you become the
kind of guy women love to be with
...


 
 
 

PART II: Types of Openers
 
Now that you know some of the basic
theories, tactics, and strategies behind the
Art of Approaching, now it’s time to
introduce you to the specifics
...
 The Openers are listed in alphabetical
order, along with brief explanations of the
Opener, the Structure of each Opener so you
can eventually learn to construct your own
personal ones, and specific examples of
Openers that not only illustrate what we are
discussing, but that you can also use in you
interactions with women
...
 If you can
speak confidently enough about something,
while also giving people some much
appreciated guidance, you can engage
anybody in a conversation
...
 The Advice Opener is a way
to engage someone by doing this, so you not
only present yourself as an authority figure,
but you also hook them into a conversation
...
” Often
times, this type of advice can come off as
annoying, since people neither asked nor
wanted any advice from you in the first
place
...

 

So how do you make your advice
valuable? Well, firstly, you want to make it
PRACTICAL
...
 
When we say practical advice, we are talking
about advice that can give it’s recipient a
logical benefit, and is something they are
actually physically capable of following
...
 This is
important, because when you support your
target’s choice, you are not only telling
them what they want to hear (and therefore
will be accepted more readily), but you are
also suggesting a commonality between you
and your target
...
  And if they accept your advice, you
have established yourself as an authority
...
 If it doesn’t
look like your target is in a situation where
she needs advice, it might be preferable to
Open with another type of Opener
...


 

 
Structure
 
After spotting your target, observe her
situation and find something to comment
on
...

 
Intruder

Offer Advice

Engage Target

 
As I mentioned before, this type of Opener is
rather context dependant
...
 Think of it like a chess game: What
are the possible moves your target is going
to make? Help them pick the best move and
share with them why they should make it
...
  Occasionally,
while you’re fueling up your car,
you’ll see a rather attractive woman
doing so nearby
...
 If it looks like she’s
filling up her tank, I’ll usually call
out:
 
“Hey, you know, you should never
let your gas gauge fall below ¼ of a
tank
...
 It’ll
save you lots of money in the long
run on car repairs
...
 If you notice, I take a read on
the situation, offer this advice, and
then engage the girl by asking her
about her knowledge of cars
...
 But this gives
you the opportunity to segue into
something they do know a lot about,
and BOOM! You’ve got a
conversation going
...
 That’s the real key to
making Advice Openers work
...
 Simply walk to her, point, and
say…
 
“Hey, cheer up! Things can’t get
much worse!”
 
This will usually get a laugh or a
smile
...

 
“You know it takes fewer muscles to
smile than it does to frown? Why do
you think that is?”
 
From here you can talk about the
difference between being happy and
being sad, or any number of other
things
...
  When in doubt, you can
never go wrong by advising someone
to smile!
 
--The “Closed-Off” Opener
 
This Opener works well when you
see a woman standing around with
her arms crossed
...
 This is a neat little bodylanguage trick, because once your
target’s body language is corrected,
their attitude will follow and they
will become more open to
conversation
...

 

Conclusion
 
Advice Openers can be any suggestion you
offer your target that is practical and
positive
...
  But when the
opportunity presents itself, as long as the
advice is real and sincere, don’t be afraid to
share it with your target
...
 This is perhaps its
greatest weakness
...
 Though, that’s not to
say women don’t love flattery
...

 
I remember when I was out at a bar one time
and talking to a guy I had bumped into
...
 
Suddenly, his opportunity presented itself as
two of the girls left for the bathroom,
leaving their rather attractive friend
unattended at the bar
...
”
 

Interested in what he was going to say, I
asked him what he was going to Open her
with
...
 I’m gonna
compliment her on her shirt
...
”
 
I couldn’t help but cringe
...
  I
tried to tell this to the guy I was talking to,
but he dismissed me and went to talk to the
girl anyway
...

 
Honestly, girls hear compliments all the
time, and though it’s nice to be flattered,
they will often see through your reason for
complimenting them – i
...
you telegraph
interest when you compliment a woman
...
 And by “Doing it right,” I mean
complimenting a girl on something that is
unique, and not every guy will notice
...
 Not only will this kind of
Opener make the girl feel good, but will
make you stand out from all the other Moes
who approach her
...
 So with that in
mind, you must first notice something about
the girl you can compliment
...
 Something she may not know
or others may not notice about her
...
  Once you establish this
unique trait, lead it into a conversation by
asking her about it or introducing yourself
...
  Simply
approach and say:
 
“Hey, are you by any chance a
dancer? Because you move with such
grace and confidence, you have to
be professionally trained
...
”
 
Complimenting a girl on the way she
moves has a somewhat sexual
undertone, but is not overtly
sexual
...
  Noticing the
way a woman moves and
commenting on it can be quite
flattering to any woman, because
they’re not used to hearing about it
...
 Walk
up to her and say:
 
You: “How high are those heels?”
Her: (answer)
You: “Wow, you know, you really
know how to walk in them
...
 It’s such a lost
art
...
  Did you have to go to
charm school for that?  How’d you
learn?”
 
This is a strong compliment because
it implies a certain kind of
sophistication on the woman’s
part
...
  This is
another compliment that is subtly

sexual, because walking in heels is a
very feminine thing to do, and by
complimenting her on it, you are
really complimenting her on her
femininity
...

 
(Walk up to the girl)”Hey now, you
have to settle down
...
”
 
This is, of course, meant to be said
in a joking manner
...
 I
have opened a great many
successful interactions with this
Opener
...

 
--The “Confidence” Opener
 
You can use this Opener with any
girl who seems very assertive or
opinionated
...

 
“Wow, you are SO confident! Are
you like the CEO of a company or
something?  Because you act so
completely sure of yourself, it’s
amazing
...
  And the
thing about people being
intimidated to talk to them will
often strike a chord with women
because, especially if they are
beautiful, they might find that
people often ARE intimidated by
them
...
  What we mean by
“girly” is when a girl is almost
immature in her femininity
...
”
 
“Oh my God, you are so GIRLY! You
know, most women today think they
have to be all tough and macho
because of feminism and stuff
...
”
 
I like this Opener because you are
complimenting her on something
that she’s probably been made fun
of about in the past, and she’s
probably rather insecure about it
...

 

Conclusion
As the old saying goes: “Flattery will get you

everywhere
...
  With Compliment
Openers, you can Open anyone in a way
where they are guaranteed not to be
offended
...


 
 
 
 

Direct Openers
 
This is probably the most dangerous form of
Opener there is, not just because it
telegraphs interest quite blatantly (and
therefore your intention) but it is also the
easiest for a girl to reject
...

 
The purpose of a Direct Opener is to
automatically take charge of the situation
you’re in, and impose your agenda on your
target
...
 But it’s this imposition that also
creates resistance from your target
...

 

 
Structure
 

The structure of a Direct Opener is a
relatively simple one
...
 You just interrupt your target’s
reality and tell them why you’re doing
so
...

 

 
Examples
 
--The “I want to meet you” Opener
 
This is a relatively simple one
...
 I like you
...
 My name is…”
 
Once you’ve introduced yourself,
you can take the conversation

anywhere you want to
...

 
“Hey, I can’t talk long, but you
seem really cool and I wanted to
meet you
...
  On the flip side,
it’s good if YOU’RE in a hurry and
really don’t have time to talk
...

 
--The “What’s your name” Opener
 
This is an Opener where you start
off by making the girl introduce
herself
...

 

“Hi, what’s your name?”
 
From here, it’s typically best to
either introduce yourself in return,
launch into a story of some sort, or
give her instructions to further your
interaction
...
 For example:
 
You: “Hi, what’s your name?”
Her: blah, blah
...
  My name is…”
 
--The “Joey from Friends” Opener
 
I call this the “Joey” Opener
because the character Joey on the
television show “Friends”
popularized this Opener
...

 
Walk up to a girl, look her over,
smile, then say:
 
“How YOU doin’?”

 
Some girls love this because it can
be really funny, and if they’re a fan
of the show, they’ll get the
humor
...

 
--The “Leer” Opener
 
This is a bit of a risky Opener
because it’s quite overtly sexual and
could turn a girl off
...

 
Basically you want to noticeably
walk up to a girl, look her up and
down, smile, nod, and say:
 
“Yeeeeeeeah…”
 
The girl will either be flattered and
play along, or she’ll be offended and
creeped out
...
 I didn’t know you

were so sensitive
...
”
 
If this offends the girl more, trust
me, she isn’t someone you want to
get to know better
...

 

 
Conclusion
 
These are a few examples of Direct
Openers
...
 Everything from “Wanna dance?” to
“How much for a blowjob?” can be
considered “Direct
...
 If you stick to it, though
your target may not go for you, they WILL,
at the very least, respect you
...
  Drama
gets the emotions stirred up, and has the
ability to enrapture people and engage them
in powerful ways
...
 Like all good stories, it has
its characters and it’s climaxes, and usually
a bit of humor as well
...
 By making
yourself part of the drama that unfolds, you
in essence make it YOUR story
...

 
But one thing you want to be careful of is to
make sure you are not the INSTAGTOR of the
drama
...
  After all, people love
drama, as long as THEY are not a part of it
...
  In order to do that, you’re
going to want to engage you’re target’s
curiosity, while at the same time linking that
curiosity to you
...
”  A Hook Statement
is anything that puts you in a story in such a
way that your target becomes intrigued
...
”
 
The above statement not only engages your
target by challenging them to believe what
you are about to tell them, but it also
thrusts you right into the forefront of the
story and your target’s attention
...
 It’s usually best to
include some type of humorous outcome or
lesson in the resolution that resonates with
your target
...
  This one is good to
use with solitary targets or groups in
pretty much any situation
...
 I was eating
dinner with a few friends of mine at
this restaurant, and all of a sudden,
we hear this scream
...
 And the girl who owns the car
is out there freaking out
...
 But instead of that,
everyone whips out their cell phones
and digital cameras, and runs
outside to start taking pictures of
the car!  Meanwhile, flames are
engulfing the hood of the car, and
all these people are standing not
five feet away taking pictures! Can
you believe that? I mean, why would
anyone endanger their lives for a
few stupid photos!”
 
(If they ask what happened, use this
Resolution)
 
“Well, eventually the fire
department shows up and tears the
hood of the car off so they can put
out the fire
...
 It was quite exciting
...
”
 
So the Resolution to the story is that
you ended up doing something which
you criticized others for doing as
well, which will usually get a laugh
...

 
--The “Street Brawl” Opener
 
If people go to enough bars or clubs
where over-testosteronized guys
consume copious amounts of
alcohol, chances are they’ve seen
fights break out
...
 This Opener works best on
mixed groups that contain both men
and women
...
 I was outside of this club,
right, and there was this BIG guy
outside with a mohawk
...
 
And all of a sudden, this mohawk
guy just CLOCKS the other dude –
hard!  Not only does he punch the
guy, but he follows through with his
elbow, so it’s like a straight 1-2 hit! 
And the guy who got punched just
stands there for a minute, like his
brain doesn’t quite realize what just
happened, and he falls straight back

onto the concrete like he’s stiff as a
2-by-4, and just lays there looking
straight up into the sky with his eyes
wide open
...
  And this guy
isn’t moving, isn’t even blinking,
and I’m thinking “Crap, this guy is
dead!  He’s fucking dead and I’m a
witness!”
 
(If they ask what happened next,
use this Resolution)
 
“Well, his friends helped him up and
the guy snapped out of it and he
started talking shit again
...
 Eventually the
cops show up and everyone gets
arrested
...
 Me and my
buddies ended up taking them to get
something to eat and then
home
...
”
 
This Opener is meant to show that
you’re more of an intellectual than
a ruffian, and that you look down

your nose at physical violence, and
prefer to be a good lover as opposed
to a good fighter, as you imply with
the resolution of the story
...
 
There’s a different dynamic when
girls fight because in a way it’s more
rare and interesting to hear about
than guys throwing down
...

 
“Hey guys, you won’t believe what I
just saw
...
  I guess they used
to be best friends or something, and
one of them stole the other girl’s
boyfriend
...
 
And they’re on the ground clawing
at each other and slamming their
heads into the concrete, and the
guy they’re fighting over is standing
there with his friends LAUGHING at
them, like it’s sooooo cool that he
has two girls fighting over them
...
)
 
“Yeah, I’m a real cold-hearted
BASTARD, aren’t I?  Actually, I’m
curious, would you ever fight over a
guy like that?”
 
The “Cat Fight” Opener is meant to
be a fun, entertaining story that
implies you’re somewhat of a ladies
man, albeit jokingly
...

 
--The “G-String” Opener
 
I got this one from Croatian Pick-Up
Artist BadBoy, who teaches men
how to pick-up women in his live infield workshop
...
  You can find out
more about BadBoy at his website
www
...
net
...
  They’ve been dating
each other for six months now, and
my friend really loves her
...
 And while she was gone,
my friend was so depressed, that he
ended up hooking up with some
random girl he met in a
club
...
 So she confronts my friend on
this, and he lies and says that the
panties are his! And that he likes to
dress up in women’s underwear
...
 So he’s been doing this
for a few weeks now and is
absolutely… MISERABLE!”
 
(Next, use this Resolution)
 
“So I think he should just come
clean and let his girlfriend know
what happened
...
  Sometimes, the
girls will even think you’re talking
about yourself! To which you can
reply shyly “Yeah, it is me
...
 All you have to
do is watch a soap opera to get an idea of
what kind of drama women like
...
 Try to keep the stories funny
and engaging, with surprise twists and turns
to keep people interested
...
  Perhaps a better name for it
would be an “Undermining” Opener, because
the purpose of this Opener is to say
something nice to someone to Open them
up, but then undermine it right away to
make the person you’re Opening insecure to
the point where they feel the need to either
correct you or prove themselves to you
...
 This
can be a tricky type of Opener to pull off,
because you do run the risk of offending
your target
...

 
But probably the best trait of an Insult
Opener is that it forces your target to
engage you
...
 Once this happens, the

target is effectively engaging YOU
...

 

 
Structure
 
A good Insult Opener is never overtly
insulting
...
”  Something where people
know it wasn’t quite a nice thing to say, but
they can’t tell for sure
...


Examples
 
It should be noted that most Insult Openers
are not meant for groups, but should rather
be directed at individual targets
...
 However, when preying on the
insecurities of a group, there are factors
present within the group which may react
badly to your Opener and turn the entire
group against you
...

 
--The “It’s still nice” Opener
 
This is an Opener you can use if a
woman has something about her
which is obviously fake, for
example: She dyes her hair
...

 
“Wow, you’re hair is gorgeous! Is it
naturally (whatever color her hair
may be)?”
 
Get her answer
...
 Well, I
suppose it’s still nice
...
  You can even adapt
it to clothing your target may be
wearing
...
  But when
you undermine these physical
attributes, it has a much more
powerful effect than simply
complimenting them
...
 That’s why you need to launch
into another Opener or story right
afterwards
...

 
The idea behind this Opener is to
start imitating your target in the
most annoyingly whiny, overexaggerated, girlie-voice you can
muster
...
  MEEEEEH!!!!”
Girl: “Seriously, I want to get
them
...
 This is a good
Opener to use if the girl is holding
court and you’re standing nearby
...
  From here you can either tell
her you’re just busting on her
because you couldn’t resist, or

apologize and move onto another
Opener or story
...
  If you do it
wrong, those people won’t be
around you for long
...
 Simply
acknowledge her and say:
 
“Did he call yet?”
 
This is implying that she’s
desperately waiting for her
boyfriend or some guy she likes to
call her
...
 Either the girl will say
“No
...
 You seem like such
an amazing woman!  Is there
something wrong with you?”
 
With the “Did who call?” response,
follow up with:
 
“You know, the guy who’s headover-heels in love with you
...
  Once that happens,
you’ve got her
...
 We’re not going to get along
...
  But the undermining
is the same
...
 I can tell we have too much in
common
...
 And I can’t be in a
relationship like that, it’s just too
emotionally charged
...
  This
is a rather overtly sexual Opener,
because of the “make-up sex” line,
but in a way it relieves the hostile
tension while replacing it with a
sexual tension, which is a good
thing
...


Conclusion
 
The Insult Opener isn’t always the best way

to start off an interaction, but sometimes
it’s necessary to prey on your target’s
insecurities as well as play against
expectations of presenting yourself as
neutral or favorable of your target
...


 
 
 
 

Joke Openers
 
In a way, the Joke Opener is the most
powerful way to Open a target, but it is also
the most difficult Opener to do
...
 But the reason it’s powerful is
because it gets your target laughing, and
laughter is instantly disarming, and raises
your perceived social value to the target
...
  For
instance, if you’re a stick-in-the-mud with
the emotional expressiveness of Al Gore, or
better yet, a cardboard box, and the only
funny thing you do all night is your prememorized Joke Opener, people are going to
know something’s off and you’ll lose your
target
...

 

 
Structure
 
So how do we construct a good Joke
Opener? Well, the basis of a joke – or any
form of humor at all – is the unexpected
...
  The punchline is always something
you weren’t expecting
...

 
So here’s the structure:
 

Intruder

Set-Up Unexpected
Punchline

 
Just make sure the set-up and punchline are
quick ones
...

 
--The “Good-Looking People” Opener
 
This Opener works well if you’re not
a “conventionally” good looking
person and your target is quite good
looking
...
 Basically, you walk up to your
target, and say the following…
 
(Shake your head in an exasperated
way) “Hey, let me tell you
something about good looking
people… we’re not well liked
...
”  And the fact that your
target got the joke will make them
feel like they are on your level of
intelligence, which will help
validate them and open them up for
further conversation
...
 It’s typical “girl
humor,” and is most effective on
groups made up of all girls
...
 It works great at parties
and club/bar environments
...
” I used to use this Opener in
college with great success
...
 It does walk the line of being
a “cheesy pick-up line,” however, so
you must be in a confident, jokey
mood to do it right
...
” After this, smile and
say jokingly) “’Cause I’d like to tap
that ass!”
 
After this, you can even throw in a
“snap” of the fingers or two and
move on
...
 It’s usually most
effective on younger party girls, and
is great for “short set” method
where you bounce from one target
to the other
...
 It’s similar to the
“Keg” Opener in the respect it is
meant to be said with the same
amount of tongue-and-cheek
...
” (The target will usually
laugh
...
) “I’m just kidding
...
”
 
This is a fun one, because the
Opener “Wanna fight?” instantly
telegraphs you’re not serious and
that there is a joke implied in your
interaction
...

 

 
Conclusion
 
Basically, any joke that is quick and
relatively simple is great to use as an
opener
...


 
 
 

Online Openers
 
With the popularity of the Internet, it is
impossible to dismiss it as a way to meet the
girl of your dreams
...
com and Yahoo! Personals
...
 
Then again, in other ways, it can be more
difficult
...
  But
regardless, there are tricks you can do
Online to get people interested in talking to
you and meeting in real life
...
  There are two kinds of
structures for approaching online: one for EMail, and another for Instant Messaging
...
 This is because Instant
Messaging is meant to engage the target
quickly before she is distracted by something
else
...

 

 
Examples
 
--The “Whammy” Opener
 

This is an e-mail that I like to send
out that always Opens girls very
well
...
 The trick is, with any
e-mail you send out on a dating
service, to be light and funny
...
 
Nothing’s worse than sending out a
letter to find out some girl got the
exact same thing from a buddy you
shared it with (and this book is
sharing this with a lot of guys!)
...
 Anyway, you’ve probably
gotten a few dozen e-mails from
losers who are freshly divorced from
their 8th wife, have 5 bratty kids, a
sexy picture of an overly-hairy back
on their profile, and who just got
promoted to flipping burgers at
McDonalds
...

 
Well, I’m not going to spend too
much time talking about myself, but
I’m good looking, muscular, funny,
exciting, adventurous, cool, a real
man’s man -- the kind of man other
men want to be, and women want
to be with!  But most of all, out of
everything else, my best trait is…
I’m modest
...
 But if
you want to meet up and have a
great time and some great
conversation, then we should get
together
...
  You also always
want to include your personal e-mail
address so women who aren’t
subscribed to the service can e-mail
you back if they like your letter
...
  The fact
is, most internet girls got LOADS of
responses from loser men every
day
...

 
In the second paragraph, I create
curiosity be talking about myself in
an overblown manner, and then
undermining it by saying I’m
modest
...

 
And in the last paragraph, I issue a
challenge
...
 And the

only way she can do that is to e-mail
me back
...
 I’m sure it’ll get just as good of
results!
 
--The “Who are You?” Opener
 
This Opener I use primarily for
Instant Messaging
...

 
“Hey, who are you and what are you
doing on my computer?”
 
This’ll start up the IM conversation
quite nicely
...

 

“What’s up, dork?”
 
Calling a girl a Dork is an inherent
challenge
...
 Before
you know it, they’re in a
conversation
...
 If they’re
on IM anyway, they’re usually bored enough
to speak to anyone
...

 
Also, keep in mind your goal for Opening
anyone over the Internet is to get to talk to
them on the phone or meet them in real
life
...


 
 
 

Opinion Opener
 
Opinion Openers are, for my money, the
best type of Openers out there
...

 
The best way to engage someone for the
first time is by asking their opinion on
something
...
 And once that’s invested, they
are more likely to commit themselves to the
interaction
...
 I first learned Opinion Openers
from a good friend of mine, Tyler D
...
”  Tyler teaches
live, in field workshops where he actually
takes guys out to bars and clubs and teaches
them to interact with women using all types
of Openers, the Opinion Opener being one of

the most popular
...
realsocialdynamics
...

 

 
Structure
 
One thing I want to introduce with an
Opinion Opener is the idea of a “Preface
...
  For the Opinion opener,
you almost always want to introduce it with
an Intruder and a Preface
...
  But it also throws them off the scent
of your real intentions, which may be to get
a date, or a phone number, or what have
you
...
 For
example:

 
“Hey guys, I need a female opinion on
something…”
 
This is even more powerful because it gives
a reason for approaching women to begin
with, because a female opinion is needed, as
opposed to an opinion any joe schmoe could
give you
...

 
Anyway, the structure of the Opinion Opener
itself has to do with setting up a situation
that has many options, listing those options,
then engaging your target’s thoughts and
feelings on those options
...
  You can do an “open ended”
Opinion Opener, but you run the risk of
people being too overwhelmed by the
number of options that may run through
their heads
...
  Limit your options to two or
three possibilities
...

 

 
Examples
 
--The “80’s Dog” Opener
 
I got this Opener from my good
friend, an author who goes by the
penname Swinggcat, who wrote a
book called Real World Seduction
...
  The Opener is as
follows:
 
“Hey guys, I need a quick opinion
about something
...
 She wants to name them after
an 80’s pop duo, but I can’t for the
life of me think of a good one
...
  The
real sneaky thing here is that there

are no well-known 80’s pop duos, so
this conversation can last a long
time, and that allows you to segue
into a deeper conversation
...
 But
they’re 70’s, not 80’s, so that
won’t work
...
”
• “Milli Vanilli was a thought,
but those are both guy names
...
  Plus,
Milli doesn’t fit a Pug or a
Beagle
...
”
 
And no matter what option your
targets present you, find a way to
disqualify it
...

 

This can be a fun Opener to do and
can really open the doors to further
conversation if you play it right
...
realworldseduction
...

 
--The “Stuffed Monkey” Opener
 
This is an Opener I came up with
when I was first starting to learn to
approach any woman, anytime,
anywhere I may be
...

 
Simply approach your target and say
the following:
 
“Hey guys, I need a quick female
opinion on something
...
 And I can’t decide whether
to get her a pink stuffed monkey, or
a white stuffed tiger
...
 
Which one would you get her?”
 

Then after they answer, hit them
with the question “Why?” to open
up the conversation
...
  Just tell them whatever
you want
...

 
If they asked why you missed her
birthday, use this to jump into an
interesting story you may have
about traveling or going on vacation
...
 This is because it has to do
with a relationship related problem
that many women can identify
with
...
 It’s a slightly longer Opener
than you may be used to, but it’s a
good one none the less
...
  This’ll

only take a minute
...
 It’s
nothing bad, just pictures of him
and ex-girlfriends on vacation and
old love letters he got in high school
and stuff
...
 Is this normal female
behavior?”
 
So you’ll get your target’s
perspective on this, and then follow
it up with this:
 
“Okay, there’s a second part to this
story
...
  I
guess he was looking at them and
forgot he left the CD in the
computer
...
 What upset her more was the
box of love letters
...
 They
are as follows:
 
--Does your target think
your friend should break up
with his girlfriend because
she’s being unreasonable?
--Don’t girls usually keep
mementos from past
relationships?  Why is it
wrong for a guy to do the
same?
--Have they ever snooped
when they were in a
relationship?  Don’t they
think that’s a bad idea?
 
Those are just a few examples
...
  Occasionally, a girl may say
“Oh, you’re talking about yourself
aren’t you?”  To which you will want
to act all shy and say something like
“Awww, you caught me
...
 Don’t deny that the story is
about you, because the girl probably
won’t believe you anyway and you’ll
look like a liar
...

 

--The “Two” Opener
 
This is not really a concrete
example of an “Opener,” rather a
type of Opener that you can use
with anything that is different but
similar
...

 
Here are some examples of the
“Two” Opener:
 
• Hey, real quick, which do you
think was better, Star Wars or
the Empire Strikes Back?  (Get
Answer) Why?
• Hey, which do you prefer –
Barbie or Skipper? (Get Answer)
Why?
• Hey, do you like coffee or tea
better? (Get Answer) Why?
• Hey, which do you think better
– Diet Coke or Diet Pepsi? (Get
Answer) Why?
• Hey, what do you think is
cooler to listen to – 80’s music

or 90’s music? (Get Answer) Why?
 
These are good ones to use in low
key situations such as on the street,
at the bus stop, in line, in coffee
shops, bookstores, grocery stores,
what have you
...
 It’s
where you have something that is
unique or interesting about yourself
or what you are wearing, and you
ask people what their first
impression of that is
...
 I’ll walk
up to my target, hold out my hand,
and say:
 
“Hey guys, first impressions… thumb
rings on a man
...
 What do you

think?”
 
Another example of this type of
Opinion Opener is when I bought
some square tipped shoes
...
  Better than the
regular kind?  What do you think?
 
Usually taking something interesting
that you’re wearing and getting a
woman’s opinions on it is a good
way to engage them, because
women love to talk about fashion
...
  But if you have a good story
prepared as to why you are wearing
what you are and why you like it,
then that negates what your target
has to think of it
anyway
...

 

 
Conclusion
 

As you can see, Opinion Openers are quite
powerful because they can quickly and easily
engage any target of your choice
...
  However, you’ll want
to stay away from controversial subjects
such as religion or politics when presenting
this type of Opener
...


 
 
 

Roleplay Opener
 
When you go to a movie, you see actors up
on screen playing a role
...
  But many people
might not realize that you don’t have to be
in a movie to play a certain role
...
 When you’re at
work, you’re an employee
...
 When you’re playing football,
you’re a tight end, or any other position you
may play
...

 
Part of using Roleplay Openers is to cast the
people you're Opening in a certain roll, a roll
which has the characteristics you want them
to have
...

 

So if you cast yourself as a rockstar and your
target as your groupie, you can certainly see
the possibilities of this type of Opener,
right?
 

 
Structure
 
The structure of the Roleplay Opener is one
where you must set the stage for the roll you
wish your target to play, and then establish
roles for them and for yourself
...

 
Intruder
Set the Stage for the
Roleplaying
Assign your Target a Role
Assign Yourself a Role
Give Examples of
how You will Interact
 
There is no limit to how you can manipulate
these types of Openers to make people act
the way you want to
...
  They tend to work
best on groups, though they are powerful to
do no matter how many people there are
...
” This show
is no longer on TV, but it has
become such a part of the American
lexicon, and it was such a popular
show among women, that I’m
convinced it will take some time for
this type of Opener to become
ineffective
...
 Me, I’m Mr
...
 It’s
great, when I’m not around you guys
can all talk about me
...
”
 
So there are a few things to keep in

mind here
...
 You
want to cast your target as
“Samantha,” because that was the
character who was the most sexual
and adventurous of the group
...
Big, was Carrie’s main love
interest in the show, so you
disqualify yourself from your
target
...
 Just be sure that
you cast one of the girl’s as Carrie,
your target as Samantha, and you as
Mr
...

 
From here, you can do all sorts of
things, like make fun of your target
for being so promiscuous and trying
to steal you away from your true
love
...
  It
works best with a group of two
women
...
 And you, you’re Hutch
because you’re the loose cannon
who plays by her own rules
...
 Huggy Bear, of
course! It’ll be great, you guys can
run around getting in adventures,
and when you get in trouble, I have
to come in and save the day
...
  But
by casting your target as Hutch, the
loose cannon, you instantly relate
your target to your Pimp image
rather than your obstacle whom you
paint as “stuck up and prissy
...

 
--The “Fan Club” Opener

 
This is one where you paint your
target as your ultimate fan who
borderlines on stalking you
...

 
You: “Hey, you like music?”
Her: “Yeah
...
  What kind of music you
like?”
Her: blah, blah
You: “Yeah, me too! I’d be the most
famous
musician ever! And you, you can be
the president of my fan club
...
 You could follow me around
asking for my autograph, tell
everyone how sexy I am, and no
matter what I do, you can act like
it’s the greatest thing you’ve ever
seen!  But the minute you start
following me to my home and asking
to have my baby is the minute I
have to fire you, so you better be
good and just admire me from
afar
...
  It’s a fun way to
instantly create interest within your
target
...

 
--The “Goldfish” Opener
 
This Opener works well with girls
who are dancing, but not quite on
the dance floor
...
 Here, stand back, stand back,
let me show you all how it’s done!”
 
And then proceed to do the
Macarena, or some other lame
dance
...
  This is a
great Opener because you cast them
as bad dancers and yourself as an

authority, and then you undermine
that and put everyone on the same
playing field in a fun way that really
engages the girls
...

 

Conclusion
 
Roleplay Openers can be lots of fun, as long
as you keep your energy high and the tone of
the interaction as being playful
...
 This is
because the act of Roleplaying is quite
stimulating and can really capture
someone’s imagination
...
 For this reason, situational
Openers can be quite difficult for some guys
to pull off
...
 Because the Opener is
dependant on the situation, if the situation
changes, your opportunity to use the Opener
is gone
...
 If the
moment is gone, there is no getting it
back
...

 

 
Structure
 
Here is the structure of a Situational Opener
 

Notice something in your environment
Comment on it

 
One thing you want to make sure of when
doing a Situational Opener is that you
comment on Something Outside of your
target’s physical self
...
  If you comment on a physical
aspect of a target, chances are it won’t be
engaging because it’s a constant in her
reality, and she’s probably heard it referred
to a million times before
...

 
--The “SARS” Opener
 
This is an Opener you can use when
someone coughs or sneezes
...
  It’s also very simple
to use
...
 Other variations may be “Mad
Cow Disease!” or “Ebola!” or even
“Stand back everyone! She may be
contagious!” (which is a good
follow-up to the Opener, by the
way)
...
  Also, be careful using
the “SARS” Opener with Asian
women, as it could be mistaken for
being racist
...
 Occasionally, you’ll get a girl
who will walk up to you and ask you
to do her a “favor” or ask you to

“help” her in some way
...
  Anyway, when this
occurs, I like to think of her as a girl
desperately looking for a man
...
 But the
response is so unexpected, the girl
will usually laugh
...
 I
take it back, we can go out
...
”
 
If she tries to tell you she has a
boyfriend or get back to her original
question, just respond:
 
“Why were you hitting on me if you
didn’t want to go out?”
 

Obviously, there are a lot of places
you can go with this
...
A good way to Open
some girls is to engage in such
cattiness with them
...

 
--The “Crash and Burn” Opener
 
Inevitably, you will see another man
hit on a woman and “Crash and

Burn
...
 When this happens,
approach his target immediately
afterwards and say:
 
“Okay, honestly, how did he do?”
 
Girls love this because it gives them
a chance to vent about all the lame
come-ons people use on them
...
  This is also good
because it falsely disqualifies you as
a guy who’s hitting on her, when the
reality is quite the opposite
...
  The idea behind it
is that this guy is a real player and
needs to share the wealth, and by
pointing this out, you also disqualify
him from the women he’s with
...
 One guy and (X number
of) girls? You’re making the rest of
us look bad! You must be a total
Player!”

 
Then proceed to ask the girls he’s
with how big of a Player he is
...
  And the beauty is, you’re
complimenting the guy, so he can’t
really get mad at you (and if he
does, he looks like a tool)
...
  The
more you go out, the more situations you’re
in, the more confident you get, the better
you’ll get at spotting these opportunities
...
 In this
section of the book, I’ll lay out a plan for
you to follow that will help teach you how to
meet anyone, anywhere, at anytime
...


 
 
 
 

Fear of the Approach
 
I’m willing to bet that there has been a time
in every man’s life where he has been afraid
to approach someone he’s found
attractive
...

 
And because it is such a widespread feeling
among men, we all understand it when guys
decide not to approach a woman they
like
...
”
 
But like it or not, this fear of approaching is
a rather irrational one
...
  However, despite this, most
people fear public speaking more than
death, and would rather stand in a corner

quietly drinking than interact with others at
a party
...
” But no matter how
they respond, they will always blame it on
one thing: being afraid
...
  Rather, I’d say its laziness
...
 Objects
at rest, stay at rest
...
”  This is a state where
you’ve established what I like to call a
“comfort zone
...
 Secure
...
 In this zone,
you know what to expect, and therefore
don’t have to worry about feeling
afraid
...
  It
takes EFFORT to get out of your comfort
zone, and most of the time, people prefer to

be lazy and stay comfortable, rather than do
the work it takes to meet their goals
...
  And this is the first barrier
you have to approaching a woman you
desire
...
 
Even those who do the work to leave their
comfort zone must face this barrier before
they can proceed
...
 It’s what causes your heart to beat
faster
...
 
 
It’s fear
...
 Many guys will site their “fear of
rejection” as the thing that hinders them
from approaching women, but I disagree
with this
...
 But this is what I think most guys
suffer from:
 
Fear of Loss
...

 
When you see a girl you’re attracted to, that
you KNOW you want to have sex with, what
happens?  Do you get that funny feeling
down below, like when you used to climb
the rope in gym class?  Do you imagine
holding her in your arms, making sweet
monkey love all night long? Do you fantasize
about how her breasts feel or how her lips
taste? Or do you just know that “Girl give
you raging BO-NAR!”?
 
Call it desire, call it lust, call it whatever
you want
...

 
And this is where the barrier exists
...
 It’s that incredible urge to fuck her,
that overwhelming sense of “want
...
 The fewer
women you have in your life, the stronger
this feeling becomes
...
 It’s this desire that keeps
you from thinking of clever things to
say
...

 
Desire creates an intense WANT of that
woman
...
 You keep quiet, because you don’t
want to mess up your “chances
...

 
And when you DO take action to get that
woman you so desire, you take a chance that
you could LOSE that woman you want so
badly
...
  Not really from rejection, we have
too much rejection in our lives to be
bothered by it
...
 But when we LOSE something,
something is taken away from us, and we
experience a type of emptiness that is
incredibly HARD to cope with
...

 
So when we break this down, here are the

two barriers that keep men from
approaching:
 

Comfort Zone

Fear of Loss

 
If you want to get over your fear of the
approach, you are going to have to learn to
overcome these two barriers on a regular
and consistent basis
...
 The first of which is
building Competence
...
  When you have
secure knowledge in something, you are
comfortable doing it
...

 
In order to achieve the Competence
necessary to overcome both barriers to
approaching, you have to know what you’re
going to say before you approach
...
  Having a number of Openers
memorized gives you a “toolbox” with which
to work with
...

 
Knowing what to say is important because it
gives you a way to break out of your Comfort
Zone
...
  But if you have some
Openers memorized, you don’t have to think

of something to say
...
 This gives you the excuse you need to
break out of your Comfort Zone
...
 You need to be able to
disassociate yourself from the possibility of
success, to the point where you do not care
about the outcome of the interaction
...
 It’s a little bit of a Zen-like
philosophy where you must free yourself
from all attachment you naturally associate
to a woman
...
  You leave the possibility to have sex
with the woman you desire there, but your
goal changes so that this possibility is not
the desired outcome of the interaction, and
you therefore are not concerned about
losing it
...

 
So the two things you need to overcome your
Fear of Approaching are this:
 

Competence Detachment from
Outcome

 
Now that we know what we need to
overcome our Fear of the Approach, we’ll
look at what we need to do to implement
them in real life
...
 Bootcamp is a way of
breaking down someone’s limits, and
establishing a basic skillset that is then used
to build the other skills necessary to be a
soldier
...

 
I have used the following plan to help break
myself of my fear of approaching women,
and I have also used it with great success
with other men who suffered from the same
problem
...

 
The first thing we have to do is build your
Competence, so that when faced with the
opportunity to Approach, you can act swiftly
and efficiently
...
 Just 3 simple
openers
...
  It doesn’t even
matter if the Openers aren’t proven
to work at this point
...

 
Here’s the next step:
 
--Choose a Primary Opener
 
Of the three Openers you’ve
memorized, choose 1 to be your
primary
...
 It’ll be the first thing you say
to a girl
...

 
Third step:

 
--Find a place to practice
 
This can be anywhere there are
women around
...
 The only requirement is that
there has to be people there, and
hopefully a good number of them to
practice with
...

 
Fifth step:
 
--Approach your target
 
Once you have set a target, it is
time to Open them
...

 
Sixth step:
 
--Get your target’s response
 
After you use your Primary Opener,
listen to the target’s response and
evaluate it
...

 
And the final step of Bootcamp is:
 
--Eject
 
Once you have received your
target’s response, thank them, and
leave your target with “Pleasure
meeting you
...
 
Because you already know how the
interaction is going to end, you
eliminate that Fear of Loss because

you have already disqualified your
target before you Open them
...
 In the beginning, the goals will be
small, and you can build these up as you get
more comfortable approaching people
...
 Three seems to be the

magic number, but once you knock out those
first three approaches, you’ll begin to loosen
up and be able to take your approaches
further
...
  The more approaches you can
do after the prerequisite warm-up ones, the
more experience you’ll get and the more
comfortable you’ll become
...
 Obviously, the
more approaches you can do, the better, but
you must force yourself to do at least 6
...
 Just like when you work
out at the gym, its recommended you do so
3 times a week
...
  A
minimum of 3 days a week, 6 approaches a
day, will establish the foundation you need
to build successful interactions with women
...
 If you observe that the target
you opened is responsive, use your next
opener on them to keep the conversation
going
...
 This is called
“Stacking Openers,” because you’re building
a conversation by laying a new Opener on
top of the responses of an old one
...
 Conceivably, if you
know enough Openers, you can hold
conversations with people for hours
...
 This is how
friendships and even relationships are
formed, as people get to know one another
...
 Try upping your approach goals up
to a minimum of 12 a night, and get to the
point where you can go out maybe 4 nights a
week
...
” A “Set” can be defined as any
interaction you have with a person or group
of people throughout the course of the
night
...
 The idea
behind this is that once you have Opened a
target, it’s easier to come back and re-Open
them, because they already know you to a
certain extent
...

 
Eventually, you’ll get to a point where
talking to strangers is normal and easy for
you to do
...
 There are lots of other great
materials out there that can help you to do
this, and you may even find it easier than
when you had to learn how to approach!
 
Regardless, once Bootcamp is over, you’ll be
a changed man
...

 
Prerequisite Work:
Memorize 3 Openers
Choose a Primary Opener
Find a Place to Practice
 
Day 1:
Go to Practice Spot
Find 6 targets
Use Primary Opener
Get target’s response
Eject
 
Day 2:
Go to Practice Spot

Find 3 targets
Use Primary Opener
Get target’s response
Eject
Find 3 more targets
Use Primary Opener
Get target’s response
Stack Secondary Opener
Get target’s response
Eject
 
Day 3:
Go to Practice Spot
Find 3 targets
Use Primary Opener
Get target’s response
Eject
Find 3 more targets
Use Primary Opener
Get target’s response
Stack Secondary Opener
Get target’s response

Stack Third Opener
Get target’s response
Eject
 
Gradually add in more targets each night as
you get comfortable
...
  If
you go out and use your Primary Opener on
30 targets instead of just 6, you’re still
getting in the groove of things
...

 
Also, in the beginning, you’re going to want
to talk to anyone with the goal of just
getting comfortable approaching people and
starting up conversations
...
  You
may still feel that fear of approaching a
beautiful woman, but just remember to
focus on the process and use the Openers
you’ve learned
...
 In fact, you’ll start
to discover that talking to beautiful women
is easy!

 

Afterward
 
I can remember what it was like when it was
impossible for me to approach women
...

 
I wish back when I was having trouble, there
had been a resource such as this one to help
me through the tough times
...

 
If you put in the time and effort that is
required to meet women, you will see
results
...

 

I hope you have learned a lot from this text,
and that you will apply it in your daily life
...

 
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...
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